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Conception Preparation Rituals for Creative Feminine Essence
from MotherTreeBirth, Portland Oregon
the life of another can be a very conscious act of love—the greatest gift of love you can give your baby, yourself and
your partner. This-- like all endeavors requires some evaluation, preparation, dedication and lots of love and
laughter to make it a joyful journey.
Your first step along this path to pregnancy is to recognize that it is through loving yourself that you love your child. In
the first twelve weeks of life in the womb, a child develops all major systems--the foundation for a lifetime of health and
well-being. This means that your pre-pregnancy health is the determining baseline for the resources that your child will
draw from in those first weeks of life.
Your intuitive attunement to your own Mother Nature as well as assessing your health, financial, psychological and life
goal readiness will be of great assistance to you. Below are some rituals, thoughtful considerations and habits that will
help you create the loving space to welcome your baby into your womb.
Spiritual Wellbeing
It is through our spirituality that we connect with the mystery of conception. Despite knowing all the “scientific” ways in
which conception occurs, it is still only through spiritual terms that we can attempt to understand how this new being
enters our lives. For though it may not matter where this being comes from or how, it is the instinct of our self to know
who we are inviting into our lives at conception and that indeed we are inviting a new being with their own life plan and
their own life purpose. Knowing that conception is a spiritual act is the first truth to a conscious conception.
Rituals for calling your unborn baby to you:
1. Meditation/prayer
2. Talking to your baby (as if s/he were already here)
3. Journaling (start a sacred journal book about the baby you wish to come)
4. Dreams
5. Create an altar for your conscious conception, healthy pregnancy (be sure to have a fertility goddess!)
6. Faith practices (blessingway, mass, marriage counseling)
7. Being in nature, taking time alone
8. Get connected to the moon’s cycle
9. Communicating with your partner about your intention to conceive together
10.Listening to your heart—make a wish!
11.Explore what other faiths believe about conception, pregnancy, birth, parenting and how they fit with your beliefs.
Perhaps there’s a hidden insight there!
Mental Wellbeing
Our logical brain can be as much hindrance than help to conception. Like the computer that it is, it can come up with mile-
long lists of why getting pregnant is or is not a good idea. It can categorize information and absorb a zillion facts and
figures regarding pregnancy, birth and parenting. And much of the time in current experience, our mental brain gets in
the way of a joyful conception, pregnancy, birth. Understanding first that conception and pregnancy is not a mental act
but a creative one will help you allow the space for conception and turn mental power towards the positive.
Mental ways to prepare/encourage conception/fertility:
1. Research! Read books, articles... follow your heart for information on conception, pregnancy, birth, parenting
2. Track your cycle (learn your unique fertility cycle).
3. Clear your mental space of stressful activities—watch your own stress triggers
4. Review your lifestyle and make changes in your life that create room for baby
5. Do things you are passionate about—passion breeds passion and conception is at its essence an act of passion
6. Make a list of all the ways you think a child will impact your life. Sit with each item until you feel a measure comfort or
“okayness” with each. Being okay with the feeling of uncertainty is good too.
7. Understand everything you can about how pregnancy, birth and child development occur.
8. Recognize that conception is an act of creativity and use your mental powers appropriately.
9. Apply what you learned about project management in school/work to your conception project—planning, preparation,
purpose. Create a birthing intentions list.
10.Distinguish between desire to “have a baby” and “welcome a baby” in your life.
11.Distinguish how you will be defined or define success as a parent.
Emotional Wellbeing
Conception, Pregnancy, Birth and Parenting taps a wellspring of emotion. No matter where you are you will have some
feeling about it—and most likely mixed feelings, stemming from past experiences, your birth family, desire, unconscious
feelings. Exploring your feelings as authentically as you can and allowing for the uncovering of unconscious feelings can
help you discover your own readiness for conception or areas of your life that need to be healed, either through the
pregnancy or before it.
1. Talk with a friend about how you would feel if you were pregnant right now.
2. Express your feelings either to your partner by sharing your feelings either in person or with a letter or piece of art.
Seek communication counseling if you need a safe or encouraging environment to do so.
3. Feel your feelings for yourself by writing in a journal, drawing, painting or making a “picture map” by collaging pictures
on a large piece of paper about how you feel about having a baby
4. Talk with your mother and father about your own birth.
5. Be willing to feel old hurts if they still hurt and allow them to be healed now.
6. Write a poem or letter to your baby about how you will feel when she/he arrives.
7. Go to counseling
8. Develop a heart for adoption, which is the heart of the true parent.
9. Watch empowered birth & freebirth films—note how you feel while watching them
10.Love yourself and your spouse by resolving other issues so that you can be free to open to a new being’s attention.
11.Begin a daily stretching/meditation practice that involves spinal flexion and attunement to your divine self.
Physical Well Being:
Your body carries the innate knowledge of how to create and birth a baby without your mental management. However,
there are things you can do to support your health and fertility to give a baby all the resources it needs to create health.
Thus during the pre-pregnancy phase one should live as if she were already pregnant.
~ Tell your body it is okay, in fact you will be filled with joy, if you conceive. You may have been telling your body “no” for
so long that it needs a mental “yes” to respond to physiologically (thus the high rate of pregnancies after adoptions).
~ Optimize Nutrition: Eat primarlily whole foods (fruits, vegetables, grains, & only organic poultry, fish, meat, dairy).
Specific needs are calories, protein, folic acid, iron and vitamins. Cut out all fast food and packaged snack foods.
~ Include dietary or supplements of Omega-3 fatty acids found in raw seed oils and full-spectrum Vitamin E
~Drink lots of water! Your blood supply increases by almost 50% and baby is in need of lots of fresh clean water for the
amniotic fluid, placental and tissue functioning.
~ Avoid alcohol, drugs, smoke, caffeine, raw/uncooked meat, radiation, aspirin, laxatives, antacids, hormones (included
in commercial meats too), vaccines, heavy metals, pesticides, fumes, contact with cat feces, acutane. Clean out your
system of any toxins that may be hindering implantation.
~ Address any addictions or addictive tendencies. Choose a partner who is also doing this.
~ If you use prescription anti-depressants, you are not ready to conceive. Address the root causes of the
neuroemotional imbalance and nurture your re-entry into your body so that you can offer your pregnancy & birthing your
full presence and sustainable bonding.
~ If you feel or know that something physical might be in the way, such as low sperm count, blocked fallopian tubes,
adhesions, etc., see a healing practitioner (such as an eastern medicine doctor or yoga teacher) to address this.
~ Exercise at least 3-4 times a week with moderate intensity (a 2 mile walk, an hour of kundalini yoga or chi gong)
~ Explore the most natural, non-invasive therapies first and make medical intervention and pharmacueticals your last
resort if any. Drugs can manipulate your body in an irreversable way and make it harder for your body to respond to
herbs and other natural remedies.
~ Get all major dental work done prior to pregnancy.
Social Well Being:
Social wellbeing for conscious conception pertains to your social as well as political experience of conception and birth.
Clearing yourself of unconscious social messages about what “ought” to be done may create the space for you to
experience your own true path to conception
...Become aware of your hidden or not-so-hidden assumptions and perceptions about conception, pregnancy, birth and
parenting
...Rid your environment of as many negative messages regarding conception, birth, pregnancy, sexuality, women’s
bodies, and parenting as you can. Choose a partner who has done the same.
...Attend women's yoga classes and/or other spiritual women's community groups
...Learn more about your family, community or societies myths, stories about conception, pregnancy, childbirth.
...Get to know where you stand politically regarding current birth practices, parenting, conception (ie. abortion,
circumcision, homebirth, hospital birth, legislative policies regarding birth).
Herbal Allies for Fertility
Herbs to be used alone or in combination:
Drinking a pregnancy/fertility tea daily will double your chances of conception
Take 2 organic Dong Quai capsules 3X a day, EXCEPT during menstruation
MEN: take 2 ginseng capsules daily
Evening Primrose Oil - helps to increase fertile quality cervical fluid and also contains essential fatty acids which are
good for the brain. Take from menstruation to ovulation. *It's important to switch to Hemp or LInseed Oil after ovulation.
which contain the fatty acids needed to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Evening Primrose Oil causes uterine contractions -
which is why you should not take it after ovulation in the event that conception did occur.
Red Raspberry Leaf - take during the entire cycle - strengthens the uterine lining, thus helping to lengthen the luteal
phase. (Should be discontinued on confirmation of pregnancy, can be restarted in 7th month of pregnancy)
Take liquid Floradix Iron with herbs, following dosage recommendations
Acupuncture
Take Fertiltiy Tonic daily. Capsules: two 3X a day Tincture: 1/4 tsp daily(you may be able to find a similar combination in
your local health food store)
Fertility Tonic
4 parts rehmania
2 parts false unicorn root
1 part astragalus
3 parts wild yam root
1 part dong quai root
1 part vitex berries
Fertile Female Tea
3 parts wild yam root
a pinch of stevia
2 parts licorice root
1 part ginger root
4 parts sassafras back of root
1 part cinnamon bark
1 part vitex
1/2 part false unicorn root
1/2 part dong quai
1/4 part orange peel
Fertility Recipe:
Day 1 (first day of bleeding) - Day 5 of cycle: No herbs, gives body a chance to naturally use herbs that have already
been taken, and gives your body a break from processing herbs in a time of detoxification.
Day 6 until Ovulation
Dong Quai (hormone regulator, blood thinner) Red Raspberry Leaf (uterine tonic, hormone regulator Vitex
(Chasteberry) (uterine tonic, hormone regulator)
Ovulation to end of cycle/first day of bleeding
A 'Female Harmony' tonic (women's multi-herb formula, all around supplement)
with Vitex (Chasteberry) and Wild Yam (promotes production of progesterone in second half of the cycle. Also known as
a contraceptive. Should not be taken before ovulation, as it may delay or prevent ovulation.)
